"Love is a combination of care, commitment, knowledge, responsibility, respect, and trust. Socialized in the art of caring, it is easier for women who desire to love to learn the necessary skills to practice love. And yet women have not chosen to give themselves whole-heartedly over to the art of loving. As long as being loved is seen as a gesture of weakness, one that disempowers, women will remain afraid to love fully, deeply, completely. Women will continue to fail at love, because this failure places females on an equal footing with males who turn away from love. Women who fail at loving need not be disappointed that the men in their lives— fathers, siblings, friends, or lovers— do not give love. Women who learn to love represent the greatest threat to the patriarchal status quo."
-bell hooks. communion: the female search for love. the quote is in a transition paragraph into her chapter entitled “choosing and learning to love.” the radical simplicity yet complexity of her writing continues to blow me away.
my morning conversation today is leading me to continue to think and feel and explore deeply what this means. this loving is tied to the past and future. how does one be open to love? because i deserve it. because i have something to contribute. and because: "Women who learn to love represent the greatest threat to the patriarchal status quo."
"True friends are our best personal brand consultants, the ones that sit us down and tell us the truth about our lives. They understand not just what we do, but who we are becoming. They help expose the lies we tell ourselves and breathe life into moments that need encouragement.They’re not pursuaded by high levels of “epicness” or exclusive invites. Friends are content to navigate the mundane and the everyday together, because not everything can be “crushed.” The world needs more friends. More specifically, the world desperately needs more “connections” to become true friendships."